Don’t brood over your tears!

We all do that. Many a times we don’t worry or shed tears about a broken relationship but we worry about the tears we have shed and the efforts we have put in for that relationship.

When a relationship ends we hang on to it for a long time.
The questions like , How could the other person do that? Why me? etc haunt you in all the possible places. You loose your solitude also to mull over the reasons for that relationship to break.

I am not sure whether we always have a reason to get into a relationship. But most of the times there is a need for that relationship to exist. The moment there is no ‘Need’,

The relationship just gets over. It‘s not always easy to end a relationship gracefully. A mess always exists in a place where the relationship flourished previously. A mess replaces the ‘Need’!

So when a relationship does get over, don’t brood over it. At least I have decided not to do it and I have understood that by breaking a relationship some times you break free from your own cocoon. The independence you get with out relationship might be more beautiful and stronger than that relationship in your life. So just try flying off, when you break free form some thing and just let the other person also to travel his/her own path, after all there is no fun in traveling if your partner is not enjoying the journey. May be both of you will discover a new meaning in life with out each other.

This does not mean I like ending a relationship for all the reasons on earth. Try to keep it alive until you see love in the other person’s eyes, until the other person smiles between his/her tears for your sake, until you are one of the most important ‘brick’ of his/her existence, until he/she wants to cry on your shoulders and smile with you. The moment these things vanish, you know that it has ended and silently just walk out of the path wishing both of you happiness and peace.

“humara kauf mohabbat nahin , uska dard hain”

“Aasuon se dar kar hum mahabbat ke dariya me nahin utrein,
Humein kyaa pataa tha ki naav khade khade bhi toot jaati hain”