Expectations..

I was thinking about the Indian perspective of relationships. Some times I feel we expect a lot. We expect our parents to be perfect, mom should be loving and caring, she should always do some thing for us, never expect some thing for herself, put her self in the last priority. Father should always earn for us, even if he has no savings he should educate us in best schools and support us in what ever we do. Wife should always listen to her husband and in laws, husband should be dominating. All in all we have a hard core rule for every relationship.

Not only from relationship, we expect some thing from rivers also. We expect her to wash off all our sins when we take a dip in that (Raam teri ganga maili hogayi paapiyon ke paap dhote dhote –Ram teri ganga maili). It sounds funny but just give it thought. English men don’t expect Thames to wash off their sins, Africans don’t want Amazon to do so!


The other side to this is, we worship Ganga, Jamuna, Kaveri etc as our mothers. I am not sure whether any other country does it. May be some tribal people do so but I have not heard of it so far. We worship our moms by saying “Maatru devobhava”, but poor thing she ends up paying a high cost of her identity for it. :)

This is just a thought in me, I do believe in the Indian family system which has taken several thousand years to emerge and I am not sure what our ancestors expected of children when they said “Maatru devo bhava” and how definite identity, the women of that period had.

I felt so, after I felt irritated with my mom for some thing. :)

“Safar mein aate har kisi mukaam ka naam nahin hota ,
Zinadagi mein aane waale har kisi shqs se rishta nahin banta”