At times people just want ‘you’ not what ‘you want’!

Some times you want go somewhere else, do some thing else but the other person want only you not what you want! This is perfectly all right, every one is entitled to expect from relationship, but at times you feel let down by such behavior.

Why can’t the other person do what I want to do? You tend to ask this question many times which gives rise to so many other doubts.

In my case, I just cannot do certain things, no matter what the situation is. I can not mingle with many at a time. I tend to keep it to myself in a group. I remember my friend who always neglected me when we went out in a group because of this reason. She felt I was a left out, an odd man out (woman J )! Obviously she didn’t want to be with me for the same reason. After some time, I started doubting her affection for me and we both parted our ways. It’s altogether a different story that she understood my point after 2 long years and even apologized for her attitude. But I had lost that trust in my friends, this time around when I went out with my friends I chose to be either alone or with few people, I am comfortable with. I never bothered about my ‘friend’ when I was in a group.

I had lost the trust that she will be with me in a group! I still continue the same. I no longer stick to my closed ones when I am in a group.

I wanted to be with people whom I am comfortable with; I wanted my friend to be my side. She wanted vice versa. We both were right in our own ways.

I had read somewhere that; you can never a love a person who is weaker than you.

May be that’s the reason my friend wanted me to be one with the group. I did try to change myself according to her wish, but when I changed I was not my self. This time around I was not ready to stick on to her! It took us few years to understand that, she need not be with me always if we were to be friends and I need not change my self to get other’s approval!

It takes a lot of strength to accept people as they are and still more to allow them what they want to do. It should not be a problem if you love a person, after all love is all about giving the freedom yet protecting. But the question is who will give freedom and who will do the act of protecting? (Will try to find out the answer J)

“Koodittidde naanu hakkiyonda adara haadu kelalendu
Marete hode naanu, panjarada hakki haadadendu”

“Hum ne paala panchi ko, Sone ki pinjare mein
Bhool gaye the humk ki,
gaana to door panchi roti bhi nahin hain pinjde mein”